There's no compaction, it's more an issue of the build up of organic matter(dead roots, fish waste etc). so a deep vacuuming every 12 months of a good hand turning after uprooting a certain section is wise.
I think the Black Flourite sand meets some of the considerations you are concerned about, 300 lbs ought to do well.
If you add rock, Wood, consider that as filler also
So you might call around and see if you can get the flourite first, as well as search for the Black silica sand.
The black flourite sand from Seachem looks good.
Regards,
Tom Barr